Anonymous asked: Are you and your boyfriend in an open relationship? If so, how could you help initiate that with a partner without hurting them?
Tyler and I are not ‘technically’ in an open relationship but we do like to think of ourselves as forward thinking in the relationship department. We are both loyal to each other but if one of us wanted to pursue a sexual relationship with another person we would have to discuss it and be fully honest as to what we want with this person. Having sex with a person is different from sharing an emotional bond with someone and I think in order to be in a successful open relationship you both must be honest with each other and make each other the others main priority.
In order to initiate the conversation You first must know exactly why you want to have an open relationship. What are you not getting from your partner? And what exactly do you want from this other person? To be honest, it is MUCH easier to be monogamous. In my experience when you have people on the side it makes it very hard to spend time with your ‘main’ partner without making the others feel left out. You must also decide if you want to be “tied down” to one person? Some people aren’t ready or want to be in a monogamous relationship, and that’s ok! They just have to be honest with themselves before they hurt someone else.
If you are 100% sure you want to be in an open relationship a good way to start the conversation with your partner would be with whatever problems you have in the relationship or the reasons why you want to be in an open relationship. Let them know why you want this and what this will mean between the two of you. This is a difficult talk to have and tears will most likely be shed but for the right people and open relationship can work wonderfully.