Confessions Of A Fat Girl Dating A Skinny Guy

This blog will be dedicated to the trials and tribulations I have, and will face, being a fat girl dating a skinny guy.

Anonymous asked: I'm in love with your blog... I'm currently about 270 lbs & my boyfriend is about 130 lbs, we've been together for almost 3 months now, I've been wanting to find a couple like us forever cause I'm really insecure about myself... But he is always there for me and is the best at making me feel better about my weight. & I just wanted to let you know that you guys are adorable & I am inspired by y'all's relationship.

Aww, well thank you! Messages like this are what we like to hear and the reason why we created this blog :)

xo Annie

Anonymous asked: Hi! So, I'm a dude with a chubby girlfriend who wants to meet my family. But my family is extremely fat-phobic, so I don't think it's a good idea. I'm not ashamed of my gf at all, though! I'm ashamed of my family. Their opinions don't matter to me and I will always love my gf. I'm just afraid my family will act disrespectful when they meet her. What should I do? My gf thinks everything will work out and that we can change their opinions, but I know my family and I know that they won't change.

This speaks to me on a personal level because I had to go through the same thing with my dad. One day shortly into the beginning of Annie’s and my relationship, he had picked us up from downtown and was dropping her off at her house. She got out of the car, we said bye to each other, and then my dad drove off with me in tow. We hadn’t even made it all the way to the end of the street when he looked at me and said, “You know, she’s going to get really fat when she gets older.”

This completely threw me for a loop. I couldn’t believe the words he had just said. Here’s a little bit of back-story about my father: He did a lot of drugs when he was around my age up until the tender age of about 45. During the last ten or so years of that, he was addicted to painkillers, but before that it was mostly cocaine and speed. After kicking cocaine, he gained a lot of weight. I mean, a lot. I love my women large, don’t get me wrong, but seeing pictures of my father now compared to pictures of him when he was in high school… HE doesn’t even look like the same person. He has easily gained 150 or more pounds in the last 10 years of his life.

I know that Annie’s fat. She already is fat, and that’s one of the reasons why I love her. It isn’t any business of his to care about Annie’s body. Is he the one who comes home to her every night? No! Is he the one who’s decided to spend the rest of his life with a curvaceous bombshell? No! Is he the one who gets the privilege to kiss her lips, hold her hand, squeeze her luscious curves, and go to bed with a woman who is the epitome of Venus? No!

I proceeded to yell at him. I was outraged, and I lost it. I used to take his shit, but since being with Annie I’ve cared less and less about his opinion and have gotten away from being under his grip (moving to Los Angeles was the straw that broke the camel’s back in that regard). I put that bitch in his place, and I can’t stand fat-phobia coming from family. Yes, the person you love is fat. Duh. You can see it, anyone can see it! Obviously you love it and you enjoy being with her, so who gives a damn about anything else? Shit got me heated, man.

Please tell us how it went. I’m very interested to know how this situation panned out.

- Tyler

Anonymous asked: As a skinny guy in a relationship with a bigger girl: Sometimes I feel as if my skinniness makes the my girlfriend insecure. Is there anything I can do to possibly help? I work out, eat alot and I'm about 6 feet tall and weigh 170 pounds. This is about how big I get. I have never told my GF that I want her to be smaller, just that I want her to be healthy. We are in a long distrance relationship and I'm visiting her next week. This is the happiest I've ever been with a girl and I've told her.

I apologize for the late reply to the message, as I’m sure that this is more than a week old. There is nothing wrong with being the smaller guy dating the larger woman. Sometimes Annie and I will lay down side by side, and she has commented on the difference in the size of our thighs when they’re next to each other. I’m sure that there are times in every interweight relationship where one of the people feels insecure because of the body of the other person, and it’s fine that that happens, but I think it should be a passing feeling.

In regards to wanting her to be healthy: That comment seems to come out of nowhere; do you mean that she thinks you’re trying to get her to lose weight? I’m sorry, but I’m not sure what you mean by that comment!

Annie and I hope that all is well with you two, and we hope to hear about how meeting her went.

- Tyler

Anonymous asked: Okay so I have just recently begun to accept my body. I'm 15 at 200lbs and I'm very voluptuous *hurr flip* and I like this guy who's really skinny and he seems to feel the same and it just makes me so happy to see your blog. I adore it.

It’s always refreshing and it brings a smile to Annie’s and my face when we get messages like this from other adorable interweight couples. There is no shortage in the world of larger voluptuous ladies, and trust me when I say that there also is no shortage of men who would be proud to be seen holding hands with one.

- Tyler

liveable-man asked: I love your blog it's helping

We love getting messages like this. We have no idea what we’re helping you with, but we feel good that we are.


mismvtched asked: Where are you?

We’re still here! We’ve been busy with preparing to move back to the Bay Area at the end of July. Additionally, I’m working two jobs and Annie is working almost non-stop, so we have very little time as of late to sit down and make posts, but we promise that we’ll do our best to start writing and posting more in the near future.


Anonymous asked: You two are so cute :3 I love reading your stories and seeing your pictures. Good luck with everything :3

Thank you, we have a lot more to come!

- Tyler

A few days ago I finally got to meet and hang out with my longtime friend, Sara. She and I have known each other for close to a decade, and despite living in the same state for most of that time, we didn’t actually meet in the flesh until the 5th of July. Sara has always been artistically inclined, whether it be hand-making animal masks, sketching, painting… this woman can make anything she sets her mind to, and I am continually amazed by her talent (I have one of her pieced and, trust me, it’s great). She’s been with her boyfriend Aaron for six years, and even moved to Texas to be with him (that right there is love, folks!), and the two are a gorgeous interweight couple much like Annie and I.

The three of us went to Olivera Street and then to Chinatown for delicious Chinese food, then back to Union Station before their train bore them away to San Bernardino. She also has a great blog that you should all follow, which can be found here (which is full of body positivity, Pokemon, humorous images, and lots of animals), and she has been a supporter of this blog almost from day one. She and Aaron had to leave back to Texas today, but I was so glad that I got to spend an afternoon with the lovely couple.

- Tyler