anerdandhisaddictions asked: Hi! , I'm a 25 year old guy, I am a string bean, No really, Iam 6'1 and just shy of 150 lbs. Now, I mention this because it plays in to my issue. A lot of the girls I find myself attracted to are usually a bit thicker than most, some are for all I know overweight. So my ISSUE is these are amazing ladies who more times than not feel like they aren't good enough to date me (Quite the opposite), So how do you tell them "If wasn't interested in dating you I wouldn't be messing with you", Nicely
Why not begin by saying that same thing? Obviously you’re messing around with them because you find them attractive. If you want to pursue a relationship with them, let them know what you like about them, whether it be their smile, curves, personality, or any number of things. Let them know that you don’t just like their mind, but also their body!
Anyways, from the look of it, you’re with a lovely lady now, and that’s all that matters. We sincerely apologize for taking so long in replying to this, but our inbox is swamped! :(
xo, Tyler & Annie
elcaminoalyo asked: Hey. You two are so cool. I'm 17 and curvy and here in my country (Dominican Republic) are very closed mind about dating chubby girls, or maybe i'm just too insecure like the other girls but, i've flirt a lot with guys and never NEVER take it to the next level... I mean i've never been kissed or in a relationship! And it's not because guys don't like me, is because of me! I'm too scared and embarrassed, i think they should be with other lady more beautiful than me :/
Estas loca! Men, obviously, find you attractive if they flirt with you back and kiss your face, and you even state that you’re the only thing holding you back. Stop it, and accept the love that you know you deserve!
andywankenobi asked: I just stumbled upon this, and if only i came across this sooner, but i well I think its best that i learned all on my own. that no matter how big i am, someone that is smaller could love me. i've been dating the man of my dreams for almost a year now, i never had the courage to flirt with him, let alone talk to him, because like everyone else. i figured he would judge me by my size and someone like him could never love me. i was very very wrong. Thank you for inspiring others ^_^
See, everyone?! Dreams do come true! The evidence is in that you should not let your size even begin to determine who you should or shouldn’t see.
xoxo, Annie & Tyler
Anonymous asked: I'm a big girl. I have never been in a relationship before. Guys just don't seem interested in me. My self-esteem has really improved from before and I thought confidence is key, but nothing has changed. And I know that I don't need a guy to be happy, but seeing my friends (who are mostly skinny) throw relationships like how they change their clothes, it's sad. Any advice?
Tyler: Some people just aren’t appreciate of their relationships when they’re in them.
Annie: I found that a lot of men have trouble approaching larger women in public… the reason why, I don’t know, but in my experience, the best way to meet men (if that’s what you want to do), would be to try online dating sites. I wouldn’t pay too much attention to my friends if I were you, in this case what’s good for them might not be what’s good for you.
xoxo Tyler & Annie
berrymayonaisekittylamp asked: This blog is.. AMAZING. I've only dated two guys (Im about to be 16.) And there both, on the smaller side. Short too, but not shorter then me. I've found myself inLOVEE with my current boyfriend. He's sweeted then sugar :) He makes me less insecure. But.. when we're together and stuff.. he asks me to be on top of him when we kiss.. how do I get past that? I'm afraid I'll like turn him into a pancake? D: he says I wont.. but.. ya know.. probs.. :(
You won’t! I’m sure that he loves the feeling of your body on top of him, or else he wouldn’t ask! I know that Tyler likes the feeling of my weight on him, and it takes a lot to turn someone into a pancake (it just might leave him breathless ;D )
suptoast asked: do you ever have trouble with being on top during sex? my boyfriend is the equivalent of a size like 2.. like he's 6'2" 150 pounds.. i'm a 14/16 and i literally cannot feel a damn thing when i'm on top and I don't think he does either. Any other position is fine.. but I miss being able to ride my man.
I’ve never necessarily had a problem being on top, but it did take Tyler and I a few months to “figure out” out how to do it correctly. I know that Tyler really likes it, but I personally prefer some other positions where, for lack of a better term, I can get penetrated deeper. Men usually like a woman to be on top because it’s visually arousing to see all of your womanly bits in front of him.
One thing you can try is, instead of bouncing up and down, go front to back rubbing yourself against his mound while he’s penetrating you, that way you can get some clitoral action going and it’s more enjoyable for you. :)
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I went to a certain institute for fashion in downtown Los Angeles for a couple of years to get a degree in Digital Media, and I loved it. It was a place where I could freely express myself without the fear of being judged by others (of course, when you’re at a school where 90% of the people in your classes don’t even know who David Bowie is, it could get frustrating sometimes). Anyways, my major was one of the smallest in the school, with only about 20-30 students attending in a given quarter; because of this, you formed a close bond with your classmates… unless one of them was an asshole.
One such example was someone I’m going to call “Ethan.” Ethan had a tendency to pick on a specific student named Quincy, who was super fucking cool but incredibly shy. Ethan knew this and would go out of his way to torment the poor kid at any given opportunity. Before I was aware of how bad the harassment was, I was talking to him between classes about Quincy, as Quincy’s tendency to put himself down at any given moment was an issue not just for us fellow students, but also for members of the faculty.
Ethan told me how one day Quincy was complaining that he was 18 (or 19?) and still a virgin. Ethan said, “He goes to a school made-up mostly of girls. He could always just fuck a fat chick.”
See, I’ve never been shy about my relationship with Annie, and wear her plus-sizedness like a badge of honor on my arm. The fellow students knew what she looked like (some even eventually met her), and Ethan was one of those people. The smile I had been wearing dropped from my face immediately. I turned, looked at him, and said, “What?!”
His reply? “Oh, sorry. I forgot who I was talking to.”
I had no reply. I was shocked, and it was one of the very few times in my life that I have ever truly been at a loss of words. I stood up and walked into class without looking at him, and I don’t recall saying more than five words to him after that incident.
Needless to say, my relationship with Ethan quickly deteriorated. Of course, it wasn’t just because of his out-of-place comment, but he eventually was banned from the campus due to inappropriate activity aimed at some of the female members of our major.
I think you should always stand up for the person who you’re with (within reason). So what if someone’s overweight, has a physical handicap, “looks weird,” or any other number of dumb reasons for someone to put somebody else down? You love that person for a reason, and you should never let any rude or negative comments about them slip idly by.
So for the last four months or so, I have taken part in the body positivity movement on Instagram, including posting photos of myself in my bikini and underwear/bra. Keep in mind that none of my photos have ever been sexually explicit or suggestive and that I have always been fully covered. As far…